The One Question You Need to Understand Who You Are

Mon, 13 May 2024 18:17:23 +0000

There is one question that, perhaps more than any other, gets to the root of who we are and what motivates us: “What did I need to do in childhood to win the support and approval of my parents?” We might - to sharpen the picture - need to lean on a few subsidiary enquiries…

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“There is one question that, perhaps more than any other, gets to the root of who we are and what motivates us:

What did I need to do in childhood to win the support and approval of my parents?

We might - to sharpen the picture - need to lean on a few subsidiary enquiries:

To please my father, I needed to…
To please my mother, I needed to…

Not to upset my mother, I needed to…
Not to upset my father, I needed to…

Whatever might be claimed, no family ever gives its offspring unconditional love; there is always, more or less subtly, something that one has to do and to be - and other things that must at all costs be skirted…”

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